“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”
Winston S. Churchill
When it comes to achieving our goals, most people do not achieve their goals. Some would say it’s because they do not understand the true purpose of a goal, which is not to exactly hit the goal but to give you a target to shoot for in bettering your life. After all, how are you supposed to improve yourself if you have no idea what you’re going to improve on?
Others would tell you that it’s because when chasing that goal, these two things usually happen on the journey:
- Most people give up the faith that they can achieve the things they want in their life and they do not put forth the necessary effort and therefore their life does not get significantly better. Things just stay the same.
- They start out with faith and effort, but they only do it for so long. They eventually get discouraged, tired, lose motivation, and give up.
Truth of the matter is that it’s both those reasons.
In the past, we have discussed the mindset to have when it comes to achieving your goals and the behaviors that adopt the mindset. Now, we are going to discuss the two most fundamental decisions that need to be factored into your gameplan.
Before we get into it, let’s discuss two things that you need to do first before you can factor in the decisions, Accepting and Loving Your Life Unconditionally and Redefining the Purpose of Your Goals.
Accepting and Loving Yourself Unconditionally
You only have one life. Everyone has problems. The people that are happy are not ones without problems; they chose to be happy despite the problems. Yeah, happiness is just as much a choice as being upset or sad or depressed is. At the end of the day, you get to choose how you want to experience your life.
When it comes to accepting and loving, you want to first clear out any mental and emotional baggage so that you can create a neutral place inside of you so that the good is not competing with the bad. To put a visual in your head, here’s a scenario to help you understand:
Think about having a home that was a mess. You decided to improve it so you went on a shopping spree and bought all of this nice furniture. You take all this nice furniture and place it on top of all the mess in your home. The end result is that you still have a disorganized home. In fact, it’s even more disorganized.
Our mind is like our home. We have all these wounds, emotional pain, and inner turmoil that we have not made peace with so we try to add all of this positive stuff. The turmoil is still there underneath all of the positive stuff. Until we made peace with it and work through it, we still have to deal with it. We need to clear out the things that are causing us problems internally such as fear, judgment, limiting beliefs, etc. so we are at peace within. Then, we can add all the positive such as strategies and insights from a healthy place internally. The positivity can then really grow within you and take root and it becomes who you are.
You will still experience all of those negative emotions here and then, but now you can move in the direction of enlightenment where you get to choose how to experience your life at this very moment.
If you have that choice, what would you choose?
Fear or courage?
Insecurity or confidence?
Hate or love?
See yourself based on all your flaws and faults or see yourself based on all your gifts and strengths?
The root cause of all our internal suffering is resistance, the opposite of acceptance, of our reality. We constantly keep wishing and wanting things were different than what they are in this moment. We need to come to terms that in every moment, life is exactly as it is. We cannot change what life is at this very moment. We can do something in this moment to start making changes, but we can accept this moment exactly as it is and give ourselves that gift of peace.
In that place of peace is where we can fully love and accept ourselves unconditionally and allow ourselves to flow with the good and the bad of this journey called life.
Redefining the Purpose of Your Goals
We have been conditioned to believe that the purpose of a goal is to hit the goal and if we don’t hit the goal, we perceive that we have failed.
The biggest problem with this is that it affects how we approach our goals in terms of which ones we will attempt to achieve and affects how we proceed along the journey to achieving the goal. If we don’t feel like we are track with our goals, we often feel discouraged and want to give up.
We think that trying and failing is worse than not trying at all when it comes to goals. This stops us from attempting goals that are outside our comfort zone and those are the goals that really show us what we are made of.
Whether or not you achieve a goal is far less important than how you show up and therefore, who you become.
If you show up every day at your best and you do it consistently more often than not, your growth is imminent.
The Two Fundamental Decisions
The first fundamental decision you need to implement in your gameplan is to decide to have and maintain unwavering faith. It’s simple in explanation but quite rare in execution. In fact, this is probably the first time you’re hearing this or don’t know how to implement this in your goal setting or just achieving your best life in general.
Here’s the thing about most people’s implementation of faith:
Most of our faith is dependent on our results: past, present, and future.
If you accomplished something in the past, you have faith that you can accomplish it again and vice versa.
That’s all good and all, but it doesn’t quite work that way. Remember what was said earlier in the article?
Having unwavering faith doesn’t just come from results; it’s a decision you have to make for yourself. Ultimately, you have to establish the faith that you can do the things you never done before and you have to maintain that faith. Having a written affirmation or commitment to have unwavering faith might help out.
“I am committed to maintaining unwavering faith that I will _________ and I will put extraordinary effort into it until I do, no matter what. There is no other option.”
Quick Scientific Fact:
We have 40 trillion cells inside our body and our cells are affected by our thoughts and emotions, which is why stress is a major cause of disease. It causes our cells to break down and creates a space of dis-ease, which brings disease. Your cells do what you tell them to through your thoughts and emotions. Your thoughts affect your emotions, which affect your cells.
When you are in fear or doubt, your cells are responding to that emotional state and vice versa. It all depends on the state you choose to dwell in.
Creating an affirmation such as the one above and living by it every single day can really boost your unwavering faith and you’re just that much closer to your non-negotiable success!
With all this faith that you can do anything you put your mind to, you still need to make another decision to that non-negotiable success. It’s like having the mindset of the highly successful, but you still need to take action. With the decision to have and maintain unwavering faith, you then have to make the decision to put in extraordinary effort in your pursuits.
When you hear that, you probably are thinking about pulling all-nighters and having to sacrifice weekends with the homies. That’s not exactly what that means to put in extraordinary effort, but kudos for the commitment! It’s not about working hard; it’s about working consistently. It’s about doing something every day that moves you closer to your predetermined goals, which ultimately leads to your inevitable success. It might take longer than expected, but it will happen eventually.
When you get to the point that you have been working so hard and so long, the timing is always perfect so you don’t even think about how long it took.
The keys to the extraordinary effort are pre-determining your process and stay committed to the process without getting emotionally attached to the results. Understand that you are in this for the long game. You are in this until the goal is achieved or until that journey is completed. Your one-year goal might not be achieved for three years. Any progress might not be visible until six months before the third year.
This is what separates the average from the highly successful in the world – the “extra” effort they are willing to put in to create results they desire, no matter how long it takes.
If you give up the faith and you stop the effort too soon, you cut off the ability to achieve your goals. Once your faith wavers, your effort is not too far behind.
When you add unwavering faith and extraordinary effort to your goal achievement plan, there is no possible way you cannot achieve any and all the goals you set for yourself. The key here is to never, ever, ever give up unless it’s just not for you. Don’t give up because you don’t see results because success is a marathon, not a sprint. You can’t expect to break records in a marathon if your plan is to sprint the whole way! You’ll end up in a hospital. Back to your goals, you can’t expect to create your best life in a short period of time. If you really want the success, you’ll stay the path. That’s what any successful people will tell you.
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Take care and always remember you are one decision away from your birthright. Learn it, embrace it, and harness the power within.